Life goes on

It’s Thursday evening and I am just about to shut down my computer. Wait, there is just one more email. Oh it’s only to renew my subscription. Click…click…and an hour passes. Wow?! That happened. “Pat, we were feeding the kids 8 times a day/night and changing over 25 nappies per.”

The last time I posted was just before I started work. Is that saying something? I used this blog for stimulation, reaching out and to record that feeling/ memory before it disappeared. Wow it has certainly bought back the memory. So it’s time I captured the current moment before it disappears.

I have been back working for over a year. It has certainly provided balance, stimulation and a new level of coordination.

Someone once told me “it doesn’t get easier, it just becomes different”. I think this captures life perfectly now. Like any parents (working or not) we are still working round the clock on a routine. Coordinating drop offs, pick ups, lunches, washing whilst trying to ‘be present’ on those precious days at home/ master the current age. It certainly is a juggle. I aint the first person to do it and won’t be the last. But this is what I want to remember in the years to come…

  • Public transport is actually a blessing – it allows me 20minutes at the beginning and end of each day to sit, to read, to stare into space and not do a single thing. I LOVE PT.
  • Day dates are the biz! We have 2 awesome babysitters as well as amazing family on hand to call on for time out/ support. Pat and I can be so busy with work/ kids/ life that we forget about each other. I love our day dates…and being in bed by 9pm.
  • If they don’t eat, they ain’t hungry. I have stressed myself silly for the first part of the kids life trying to feed them healthy food or food. I guess this stems from the babes being premmies and needing feeds to grow. I would get so annoyed when they didn’t eat it and throw it on the floor “you ungrateful sod” but it’s taken time to figure out, if they’re hungry, they will eat. I now cook things that I like, so if they don’t eat it, I will.
  • Ask for help! At about 16months we went through a shocking period. Luckily this was closely followed by an 18month check up where I found out about Queensland’s Health ‘Circle of Security’ program.  We have had 8 hectic, but so invaluable sessions with a child health psychologist teaching us about being a parent. It’s seriously saved us. I highly recommend it.
  • Scrambled eggs for dinner takes 10mins to make and is our favourite meal. It’s on high rotation in our house.
  • It’s no secret, but wine is the key to a happy marriage. For nothing else, but it makes us stop.
  • Sleep will happen…apparently in their teenage years. For the kids…big beds have provided us with 7am sleep ins…yep our kids aren’t coming to us until 7am in the morning. Next is teaching them to make breakfast.
  • I never thought I would say this after I had the babies (another mouth to feed), but I love our dog! He gives me an excuse to go walking or running every morning. So selfless of me (wink wink). He also is the most patient puppy with the trio. Henry adores Louie.

As for Poppy, Henry and Charlie, well they are the best. They live life so hard. They have such strong emotions “I need mummy” or “NO mummy”; sing like drunken sailors (daisy, daisy); stress when one is missing, for a second and are the greatest of mates. They know how to pose for a camera “chhheeerrrrs, ok”. Charlie is a biter. Poppy asks “whose that” for EVERYTHING. They are obsessed with whose at the door when there is no one there…”whose there” for every noise and tell us about noisy cars driving past. We even have a family handshake which we do every night – high 5, fist pump, finger, elbow, nose, thanks to swimming lessons. Oh and yes, we take 1 a week to swimming lessons. All 3 didn’t work.  They have pushed us to the absolute edge. But they have given Pat and I the greatest purpose in life.

I guess what I am discovering is that we are in a good place while I write this blog. I could be one bad night sleep away from that…but right now, life is good and that’s a memory I want to record. I might keep my subscription for one more year…until then. xx

The biggest year of our lives

Poppy, Henry and Charlie are nearly one. Our triplets are nearly ONE!! What?! Huh! How has 12 months passed us by. Whilst it feels like these babies have been in our lives forever, it wasn’t that long ago we were just starting this adventure. It has no doubt been the biggest year of our lives. Its time to stop and take this moment in before another passes and I forget what it was all like.

Ok, I’ve had my token “time flies” moment and now it’s time to actually digest in 500words or less what has just happened. My last post was months ago and I was listing their 8 feeds a day routine. Nothing much has changed in regards to routine…it’s like clock work here. The biggest difference now is we are watching these little babies turn into toddlers. We aren’t just feeding, bathing and burping them. We are watching them learn, grow and find their unique personalities each day.

This is by far the most rewarding and hardest job we have ever done. It’s pretty obvious why it’s rewarding – you are teaching little innocent minds how to act and behave; how the world works; how to love and my god you get rewarded. You get these little humans look at you with such love and affection while they clap their hands or wave or say “mum-mum-mum, dad-dad-dad”. You instantly forget about everything else for those moments.

At the same time, this parenting business is so hard. Like any parent, we have had to become selfless and completely give ourselves to these little people that need us. Giving up work and my daily use of brain power was one thing, but also giving up some of our friends because their world is different to ours at this point in time. We have also had to change the way we exercise and do our hobbies (it’s now gardening, walking and the occasional circuit or run). The intensity of how hard parenting is was truly tested when they were sick. Wow, that made other days feel like a walk in the park. Sure you get the odd glimpse of your old life, but there is no denying, our world has changed.

We have not for one moment had to do it alone. We have had the amazing support of both our families and close, special friends to guide us and help us along the way. They are honestly our sanity.

Life is certainly good. Whilst we have our tough moment, days and even weeks…I constantly sit back and go wow, these three are all mine (I know that sounds a bit obsessive…I could be slightly). We have our first family holiday coming up next week at the beach, followed by their first birthday. A time to thank everyone and enjoy this moment. I will try and do a post more regularly…in the meantime I’ll write a bit about their routine for those interested.

xx Em

Feeding – At 12 months they’re on 3 bottles a day varying between 240ml to 60ml. They have them before breakfast, lunch and after dinner. They love their food and we have been incredibly blessed to have a donation by Bellamy’s Organic. Needless to say they are tracking along beautifully with their weight (between 11-12kg). They have 3 main meals a day and 2 snacks. They’re enjoying feeding themselves.

Sleeping – I’m so lucky with my little ones loving their sleep. They have 2 sleeps a day, one at 8:30/9am for an hour and a second at 12:30/1pm for 2 hours. Most of the time at least 2 do that…I sometimes have quality one on one time with the one that doesn’t feel like sleeping (Henry today). They go to bed at 6pm and wake between 5 and 6am.

Milestones – I actually can’t remember when they started sitting up. I’m going to have to look back on photos. It’s all a bit of a blur. Poppy started crawling at 10months corrected (11months) and Charlie has just started this week (11 months corrected). Henry is still very happy to be rolling around.

Activities – they love going outside; going for walks; rhyme time and SWIMMING! LOVE Swimming.

Not sure what else there is to fill the world on in my world of triplets…but if there is anything you want to know, please feel free to contact me. xo


IMG_5595It’s time. After 3 months of bliss (although not sure if bliss is the right word), my parents are returning home to the property. Mum and Dad have been with us since the beginning and it’s all coming to an end on the 20th of March. To be absolutely frank, I’m terrified. I don’t deny, I have been living in a complete state of illusion that triplets are manageable. There is no doubt that like any new mother, my life has been turned up side down and now revolves around a baby routine of feeding, sleeping, settling and playing (x3). But the real test is about to begin.

In fear of sounding like a broken record, I really don’t think I’ll have time for the blog anymore. In fact, I’ll have little time for anything. I love cooking, I enjoy exercising and even the odd coffee outing…but soon to put on the back burner. I would however love to write a blogs on feeding, their sleep routine and how we manage with triplets for those other mums out there. So instead I’ll do a snapshot of those important parts after the end of the blog.

I’m definitely not alone post 20th of March. I will continue to have my gorgeous mother in law coming every Thursday night and all day Friday. I also have my two sister in laws helping out, some wonderful friends rostering on and have some hired help with in home care (who happens to be one of my best friends). I guess the difference will be is that it will become a military operation, I’ll be alone for feeds and will have to put up with a crying baby demanding a feed…something they haven’t really done yet.

Everyone often says, ‘You’re a superwomen’…but the truth is out there, I’m not. I am however the mother of 3 absolutely gorgeous, unique triplets who are thriving. They all have amazing weight gain, reaching all developmental milestones and have smiles that light up our little house. We are two very lucky parents to have these 3 in our life…and everyone that surrounds them.

So in other news…I’m nearly 30. Ekkk. Therefore the triple threat at 29 won’t really apply. On my birthday, I am going to change my instagram page from ’emma.leyden’ to ‘three little leydens’. If you’re interested in seeing their progress, check it out…

So what I’ve learnt…for those other mums out there

Sleep: In the first couple of months, it was nearly impossible for them to get into a routine because they needed to do so much sleeping. Instead we tried to create habits so they knew the cues. This included the last feed to have very little distractions (no TV or us talking to them etc) and in their sleeping bag for the midnight feed. Whilst they wake every night, they know the drill and they are back down to bed in no time. We push them out until 6am to do the first feed, even if they wake at 5am. We’re trying to do the hard yards now, so we can manage later.

Feed: This has been probably the hardest part to work out. I know the rule of thumb is 150ml per kilo but we’re mix feeding them (50% breast milk and 50% formula) and they’re all different weights. So we offer them the maximum amount per feed (of either formula or breast) but we don’t force it down if they aren’t interested. Generally speaking, they will finish it off at some stage during the day.

I know this would have helped me at the beginning so here is a breakdown of our day at 3 months. I don’t think it will stay this way, with their sleeps changing to morning and afternoon, but this is what they’ve opted for so far.

  • Between 12am – 3am Feed (they wake us, we don’t wake them)
  • 6-7am Formula feed – if they wake earlier we either put them on their tummy in bed with us or in a rocker which usually gets them past 6am.
  • 8-9am Morning walk – Once they’ve been fed and I’ve pumped, had breakfast and done a bottle wash, I strap them in the pram and take them for a walk which we all love. It gives them something to look at and gets me out of the house. They usually have a bit of a nap in the pram too. When we come back we have a kick around on the lawn with their nappies off.
  • 9:30am – breast milk feed
  • 10:30 to 1:30pm – big sleep. They don’t all go down then and sometimes takes the whole time to settle them but we try for at least a decent sleep. Most days we get at least 30mins of peace which allows me to make lunch for the hired help and cook dinner (or blog).
  • 1pm – formula feed
  • 1-4pm – after their feed they like to have some awake time before another quick sleep. We often do baths in this time too.
  • 4pm – breast milk feed. By the time they finish this feed (if they finish it) they have another kick around and have cuddles with Pat. Pat and I often have dinner and they will have another power nap, the key is having one at least asleep so we can feed 2 in peace.
  • 6:30 – formula feed and then bed. This can take anywhere from an hour to 2. Hence we have an early dinner before this feed.
  • 9pm bed for us 🙂



The triplets have arrived


Maybe I was a little ambitious wanting to have a blog with new born triplets. This has been on my to do list for the past 11 weeks and I’m just getting to it now. But here I am, 12 weeks down.

On the 25th of November at 35 weeks and 2 days, Poppy Frances Kate (2.19kg), Henry William (2.25kg) and Charlie John (2.25kg) entered our life. We were incredibly lucky and were all discharged on the 8th day as they all fed well from breast and bottle and gained their initial weight loss. The only minor complication we had was that Charlie had jaundice. So really, we have been handed 3 amazingly healthy babies…all at once.

Pat and I have had so much support from our family and friends, it’s been overwhelming. You really see who cares and are your good mates. From doing the midnight feeds with us, cleaning our house, cooking us meals, picking up a crying baby or walking our dog, we thank you a million times over!! THANK YOU!! We really don’t know how we could have got this far without you all.

In fear of sounding like a broken record, the past 12 weeks have been a complete blur, filled with every emotion. It’s been filled with feeding (lots of feeding), settling, changing nappies, crying (lots of crying), watching the clock, trial and error, people coming and going, gorgeous gifts and meals. It’s also been filled with lots of gummie smiles, a sense of complete satisfaction that this is our family and a lot of love. I now get it. You have this absolute sense of protection and love over these little people. Stuff that mattered before…just doesn’t matter. It’s amazing and nothing you can describe easily (that’s totally not me trying to get out of writing more).

I don’t know when I will get a moment to write the next blog, but I will be amping up my instagram page for our friends and family who want to see their progress. I’m going to change the name too…as I’m 30 in under a month and the triple threat, well they aren’t a threat. If you are interested in following go to…

Until next time xox



The last of many


Pat and I in Vegas last year.

It’s the last of many. The last blog I’ll probably get around to writing before the babies arrive. The last time Pat and I will go out for a meal without 3 babies with us or at home waiting. The last time we will have a weekend just to ourselves.

Is this me being selfish? Am I really ready for what’s ahead? Or is this completely normal? Does every person about to become a parent feel this way?

When I wrote my first blog I remember feeling so many mixed emotions. I was overwhelmed, scared, relieved I could actually get pregnant, excited and even a bit numb. Although time seemed to heal some of those feelings and allow us to get our head around what was ahead.

Having said that, they seem to be back in full force. Whilst I’m so excited, I’m also terrified. I’m sure every parent would go through this feeling, whether they have 1 or 10 children. We’ve have many last times of something but we’re also experiencing something for the very first time. Parenting. We will now be purely responsible for 3 little humans. We won’t be able to give them back at the end of the day, or quit when we’ve had enough. It’s completely up to us. Although that’s a bit scary, it’s also pretty bloody amazing.

Now it’s time to have a first. Whatever this next chapter brings us, it will be a first time of many experiences. I’m ok we won’t be able to go out for a meal or have a weekend away in peace. This is bigger than that. We’re ready as we will ever be. It’s going to be the hardest yet most rewarding job we’ll ever do.

We have a scan next Thursday which will be at 33 weeks and 4 days. The scan will tell how they’re growing and when we are going to have these little babies. I’m hoping to hold on until past 34 weeks…fingers are crossed.

If you would like to see other updates on the triplets progress, check out my instagram page:


Home Stretch

I’m currently 31 weeks pregnant and the count down is on. I had a scan last Thursday and all 3 babies seem to be growing beautifully. Triplet 1 is engaged and weighing approximately 1.5kg, triplet 2 is our biggest coming in at 1.7kg and triplet 3 with the most room is almost 1.5kg. They are thinking I might make it for another 3 weeks….if I’m good and rest of course.

I’m not sure what it’s like to be pregnant with 1 or 2 for that matter, but the third trimester is a whole new ball game with 3 on board. I didn’t realise how much my body would change and how amazing it seems to cope supplying for four, including myself. Although having said that, I have never been to the doctor as much as I have now that I’m pregnant. The start of this trimester I got a chest infection and just last week I got an eye infection (yep, really good look). Luckily antibiotics have cleared up both infections in no time at all.

I am seriously overwhelmed with the generosity of our friends and family. Just last week, a friend who recently had a beautiful baby boy posted all his little clothes from Sydney, costing them an absolute fortune. My family have supplied us with their maternity clothes, old toys and extra baby clothes. I know I keep saying this but we are truly blessed to have such amazing people in our lives.

I stil have no idea what the sex of the babies are, our final names and when they might come. I am thinking we should have a sweep with our friends. Do you have any ideas???

So the next couple of weeks is just a waiting game. I have my bag packed ready and the freezer stocked with ready made meals for when we are travelling back and forth from hospital. I’m actually starting to get excited. Just yesterday I was sitting in bed and had a thought that in no time at all we will have 3 little bundles surrounding us. Until next time xxx

The bed rest bore

I had another scan last Thursday and the babies are all doing really well. Triplet 1 was 1.1kg, triplet 2 was 1.4kg and triplet 3 was 1.3kg. According to my baby centre app, the average for that stage is 22 pounds or just over 1 kg. Having said that, triplet 1 is engaged (head first, ready to come) and my cervix is starting to open. As a result I’ve been ordered onto bed rest and for those of you who know me, know that’s nearly impossible.

It’s catch 22. For once in your life you have free time to do whatever you want. To get those odd jobs done, go on a holiday, shop etc. Whilst I’m feeling great, I can’t do anything. But when the doctor puts it into perspective how important it is to keep those babies in there for as long as possible you really have to stop and not be selfish. You see the longer they’re in there, the best chance they have at breathing, feeding, controlling their own temperature and all those things we can take for granted with singleton babies.

So that leaves me a little bored to say the least. I have tried getting into TV series, reading a book, doing some adult colouring in, doing tax, my paid parental leave application…but I just don’t feel satisfied. From living such a busy life with exercise, work, renovating and travel I am left a little empty. It really has forced some self reflection that I need a temporary hobby. I have often found myself slipping back into my old ways – cooking (freezer meals), daily visit to the dog park with Louie and outings (movies, lunch dates etc), but enough is enough. So I’m thinking knitting next…something I would never think of doing but I hear it’s very satisfying having an end product. What else could I do to keep me horizontal?? I welcome any suggestions.

Next scan is next Thursday…will keep you posted. xo

Making a saving

It’s 6am on the second day of maternity leave and the first thing I do is reach for the computer to check emails. I clearly haven’t snapped out of my work routine yet. I’m sure it won’t take long. So now the emails are done, it’s no better time to write my next post.

So I’m 28 and half weeks pregnant with the trips. The past 2 weeks hasn’t been smooth sailing as I’ve had a chest infection, however we’re over the worst of it.  My amazing parents in law took me under their wing and looked after me. What would we do without family?!

Now it’s time to nest, organise and prepare for the triple threat. Some advice I’ve been given is not to buy too much, instead to get whatever I can second hand. It’s a little bit different to having one. We don’t need to make the investment for children following. It’s all in the one go. We also need to save every penny, just to give birth to them as the medical expenses are so much more than if we were to have one. So this blog is both to help the new triplet mums get organised for their new arrival in the most cost effective way possible and for those experience mums…what am I missing and what else could I do???

  • Car – bought a second hand Mazda CX9 which comes with 7 seats.
  • Cots – 3 second hand all painted freshly white with ikea mattress protectors and sheets.
  • Change table – 2 second hand ones. One for the babies room and one with a bath in it for the l’dry.
  • Storage – 2 x ikea shelving units with 12 Drona boxes (yes 12) of course in all neutral colours.
  • Feeding chair – my lovely mum must have foreseen I would have children one day and did up this chair for me which is now neatly placed in the babies room.
  • Clothes – THANK YOU sister in laws. I have 4 amazing sister in laws who have given us both boys and girls clothes. I might just need to purchase premmy clothes, however waiting for when they come out. Someone did tell me to just go on ebay and you can buy bulk clothes for whatever size you need.
  • Pram – 2nd hand from a triplet mum. This pram retails at $1600. Good news is there are always one popping up on Gumtree. Phew.
  •  Car seats – capsules hired from Kid Safe QLD.
  • Rockers – we’ve been given 2. You can hire these if you want too, as they only need them for a short period of time.
  • Baby carrier – given one.

So that’s it…what else do I need? I know I want to invest in a good nappy bag…any suggestions? What else do we need????? Breast pump, bottles…HELP.

I don’t want to sugar coat anything here. Whilst I have gotten off lightly with spending money on things, having triplets is still ridiculously expensive. Our medical expenses are so much more with the fortnightly doctors appointments from the beginning…now weekly, the scans (I’m up to my 5th today which cost $400 a pop), the extra hormones I have to have every night ($50 a week), the steroids and beyond. I guess if I can make a saving on materialistic things and so we aren’t stressing about money to ensure we get these babies out safely, we will make the saving.

Please add your comments below with any suggestions or ideas. I’m new to this! Thank you xox

Closing a chapter…for now

I’ve been procrastinating doing this one….or avoiding it. For those of you who know me, know that I am one of those very rare and lucky people who love what I do and completely believe in it. When people ask when I’m giving up work, I give the typical response, “Not soon enough”, but I don’t really mean it. Closing this chapter is actually a bit harder than what I imagined.

So what do I do you ask. I work in preventative health – from changing behaviour to influencing environments so the healthier choice is the easier choice. I currently hold a role with government which allows me to change workplaces for the better. It’s an exciting time, workplaces are going beyond to achieve greater business outcomes through improving workers health. I still see so many opportunities for growth and to do more in my industry.

I have always had the mind set that you can’t do it all. You can’t work full time and be a mother full time. Something has to give. That could be fewer steps on the corporate ladder or even worse, the children’s wellbeing. This scares me a little. I will have to become completely selfless and give up my career for these little ones.

You’re probably thinking, stop being so dramatic, you’ll be back at work in no time. And you’re right, I will be back at work in a year or two. There are few things that worry me though, firstly how I’m going to make a meaningful contribution to this world or even our household income? Will I be the role model our children need?  And will I still have that drive in me when I do return to work?

I hear becoming a mother changes you. I don’t know how or what into. But it’s the unknown that worries me. I’m not only closing a chapter (temporarily) of 10 years, I’m opening a new one. One that I have no idea about. If I was having the one child I could almost make that plan to return to work. But we’re having three, so we have to be completely selfless to give them the very best start to life and take the wait and see approach with work. For all I know it could be years away.

I finish up work next Thursday. What next…I don’t know.The world at my fingertips

Negative/ positive

Negative: For the first part of this pregnancy I have felt as though the world was sort of against us. Firstly with the difficulty of falling pregnant and then to be pregnant with triplets which increases the risks for almost everything. I won’t have a normal pregnancy, I won’t be able to deliver the babies naturally and who knows how I will go with breast feeding. It says it all in people’s reaction when you tell them you’re pregnant with triplets. It’s not always a “congratulations”. It more like a stunned look, followed by “wow, how will you cope”. A reaction I probably would have given if I found out someone I knew was having triplets. 
Positive: Our neighbors put it perfectly – ‘you’ve been chosen…you’ve got this’. Still one of the best reactions we’ve got. Instead of looking at this as a negative, it’s a massive plus to be having triplets. Firstly I could only be pregnant once in my life (boom), we will just need to nail each stage instead of trying to manage 3 separate stages (e.g. A newborn, a 2 year old and a school aged kid), only 1 maternity leave needed, they will always have mates, they will know how to share…etc etc. Now who doesn’t want to have triplets? 
Negative: Whilst I have come to the realisation it’s not all bad with having these babies, we have been hit with some horrible news in the past couple of weeks. Firstly I went to farewell my granny on a Tuesday. I delivered part of the eulogy and I don’t know if it was my hormones or the memories of my beautiful granny flashing back to me, but I could barely get the words out through my tears. My dad came up to support me whilst I spoke about his mother. Although she had a great innings and an amazing life, I was sad she couldn’t meet the triple threat. That bad news was closely followed by a tragedy and another farewell on the Thursday. A close friend of ours was taken at age 28 by mental illness. I don’t really know how to best describe her as she was just stunning in every way. The one you turn your head at when she walks into a room I guess that would be a start. Something that just shouldn’t have happened.
Positive: Pat and I lived in Western Australia for just under 3 years. We had a great time and met some truly amazing people. A friend from the west was travelling to Queensland for work and she managed to change her flight to stay an extra night so we could catch up. Meanwhile little did I know another friend had organised with Pat to fly over for one night and leave her 8 month old for the first time. Not only is that an expensive flight but also a fairly long and annoying one. I could barely believe my eyes when I saw her. We just spent the weekend with each other catching up. It made me realise how lucky and blessed we truly are. While we were in Western Australia the majority of our close friends visited us from Brisbane. It made me realise how lucky and blessed I am to have such amazing people in my life both close and far away.
It’s so easy to get caught up in everyday life and to dwell on the small stuff. But if this journey has taught me anything is that we are truly blessed. Out of every negative there seems to be some shining light. I could spend my nights worrying about these 3 little bundles, but instead I’m growing more and more excited to get to know them, what their personality is like and how much they will complete our little family. We don’t have a big house or every toy. But we have some great, great people in our lives that will fill them up with a lot more joy.     

  My gorgeous friends from Perth on each side of me.